Sylow Subgroups and Conjugation

By computer calculation, the smallest counterexample is $S_3^2$ which has $9$ Sylow $2$-subgroups, and the action of one of them by conjugation has one fixed point, one orbit of length $4$, and two orbits of size $2$.


Let $\mathcal{S}=\{S \leq G: S \in Syl_p(G)\}$ be the set of Sylow $p$-subgroups of $G$. Fix a $S \in \mathcal{S}$ and let $S$ act on $\mathcal{S}$ by conjugation. Then the length of an orbit of a $T \in \mathcal{S}$ is clearly $|S:N_S(T)|$, the index of the normalizer of $T$ relative to $S$. The following holds true.

Proposition Let $S,T$ be Sylow $p$-subgroups of $G$, then $N_S(T)=S \cap T=N_T(S)$.

Proof Let's prove the first equality, since by symmetry the other holds to. Clearly if $x \in S \cap T$, then $x \in N_S(T)$. So assume $x \in N_S(T)$, in particular $x \in S $. Then $\langle x \rangle T$ is a subgroup. And, it is a $p$-subgroup, since $|\langle x \rangle T|=\frac{|\langle x \rangle| \cdot |T|}{|\langle x \rangle \cap T|}$ and note that $x$ is a $p$-element. But $T \subseteq \langle x \rangle T$, but $T$ is a maximal $p$-subgroup since it is Sylow. Hence $T = \langle x \rangle T$, that is, $x \in T$.

So the size of each of the orbits is $|S:S \cap T|$ (which equals $|T:S \cap T|$). Your question boils down to what can be said about the intersections of the different Sylow $p$-subgroups. These do not have to be equal as the example of $S_3 \times S_3$ and its Sylow $2$-subgroups demonstrate (see @Verret). Finally observe, since the oribit size of $S$ itself is $1$ as you remarked, the number Sylow $p$-subgroups $n_p(G) \equiv 1$ mod $|S:S \cap T|$, where $|S \cap T|$ is chosen to be as large as possible among the $T$'s not equal to $S$. This generalizes the regular formula $n_p(G) \equiv 1$ mod $p$.