How to use grep()/gsub() to find exact match

For exact matching, it makes the most sense to use ==. Additionally, this will be faster than grep(), and is obviously much easier.

which(string == "apple")
# [1] 1

Use word boundary \b which matches a between a word and non-word character,

string = c("apple", "apples", "applez")
grep("\\bapple\\b", string)
[1] 1

Use anchors. ^ Asserts that we are at the start. $ Asserts that we are at the end.

grep("^apple$", string)
[1] 1

You could store the regex inside a variable and then use it like below.

pat <- "\\bapple\\b"
grep(pat, string)
[1] 1
pat <- "^apple$"
grep(pat, string)
[1] 1

Update:

paste("^",pat,"$", sep="")
[1] "^apple$"
string
[1] "apple"   "apple:s" "applez" 
pat
[1] "apple"
grep(paste("^",pat,"$", sep=""), string)
[1] 1

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