Disable the timeouts on apache httpd and fastcgi

Looks like you want one of the FastCGI directives: FastCGIServer, FastCGIConfig, or FastCgiExternalServer, depending. FastCGIConfig affects all FastCGI applications; the other two are per-application. You'll want one of these options (check the docs to be sure which is appropriate):

-appConnTimeout n (0 seconds)
Unix: The number of seconds to wait for a connection to the FastCGI application to complete or 0 to indicate a blocking connect() should be used. Blocking connect()s have an OS dependent internal timeout. If the timeout expires, a SERVER_ERROR results. For non-zero values, this is the amount of time used in a select() to write to the file descriptor returned by a non-blocking connect(). Non-blocking connect()s are troublesome on many platforms. See also -idle-timeout, it produces similar results but in a more portable manner.
Windows NT: TCP based applications work as above. Named pipe based applications (static applications configured without the -port option and dynamic applications) use this value successfully to limit the amount of time to wait for a connection (i.e. it's not "troublesome"). By default, this is 90 seconds (FCGI_NAMED_PIPE_CONNECT_TIMEOUT in mod_fastcgi.h).

-idle-timeout n (30 seconds)
The number of seconds of FastCGI application inactivity allowed before the request is aborted and the event is logged (at the error LogLevel). The inactivity timer applies only as long as a connection is pending with the FastCGI application. If a request is queued to an application, but the application doesn't respond (by writing and flushing) within this period, the request will be aborted. If communication is complete with the application but incomplete with the client (the response is buffered), the timeout does not apply.

-min-server-life n (30)
The minimum number of seconds the application must run for before its restart interval is increased to 600 seconds. The server will get 3 tries to run for at least this number of seconds.